Preparing Your Guests for Assigned Seating

Without going completely insane. We promise.

Seating arrangements are serious business.

If you’ve done research online or just clicked around on Pinterest, you’ve seen it all. Paper plates, escort cards, post it notes, dice in a hat – you name it, people do it to try and get the perfect seating arrangement.

While working with us, Principles In Action, is the ultimate cheat code for a great assigned seating plan (seriously, we’ll walk you through everything you need to keep everyone happy), here we’re going to talk about everything else you can do to make life easier for you and your guests on your special day.


“I Don’t Need a Seating Arrangement!”

Famous last words, bride to be!

I recently attended a wedding of a dear friend of mine, and she decided to forego a seating arrangement.

It was a bad decision, to say the least.

Have you ever been to a wedding that didn’t have a seating plan? Think Walmart Black Friday Sales opening at 5am – except instead of trying to snag deals on a flat screen TV they’re trying to get a seat at the Bridal Table.

I got trapped at a table with no one I knew, and even worse, no one I shared interests with. Banished to the netherworld behind the photographer’s spare gear, our table was not a happy one. It didn’t help that everyone I knew was on the other side of the room, but sadly, mingling was not encouraged.

While the wedding is all about you, the beautiful stunning bride, the reception needs to be a little bit about your guests, too!


Who Sits Where?

Now you know why you need assigned seating, it’s time to figure out how to get everyone assigned.

Do you put all the singles together at their own table? Do you just worry about the Bridal Table? Should you just do whatever your mom is telling you to do? Check out some of the tried and true tips that we at Principals in Action have used to create happy receptions:

  • Say No to Singles Tables – Herding all your single friends together is a bad idea. Don’t do it.
  • Common Interests Matter – You’re not going to want to put your hubby-to-be’s Libertarian uncle right next to your old friend from college that’s coming off a tour from Greenpeace. They can sit at the same table, sure, but you’ll want to try and group people together that share common interests, or at least won’t bare knuckle brawl during the Toast.


  • Suggestions, Please – Friends and family will have seating suggestions, and it’s probably a good idea to listen to them. You don’t have to put guests EXACTLY where your future mother in law thinks they need to be, but others may have intel on personal relationships and feuds that you don’t know.
  •  Group ‘em Together – You can’t put everyone that likes each other at the same table, but you can make constellations of interest! Grouping tables together gives everyone the incentive to get up and mingle with old and new friends alike.
  •  Assign Tables, Not Seats – Your guests need the freedom to be able to move to another seat if they like, and as we mentioned earlier, people are going to switch seats and tables, whether you like it or not.

For many weddings, assigned seating is an absolute godsend – for other brides, it can be an unnecessary hassle that will drive you absolutely insane.


Don’t know if you need assigned seating for your wedding? Trying to figure out how to plan the perfect wedding while preserving your sanity?

Principles In Action will help you create a wedding and reception that really reflects you and your spouse-to-be. Get your free consultation by filling out our free consultation form, phone us at 210 833 6473 or email us at and get started today!

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